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Friday, January 30, 2004
I d/led Naruto 202 (manga) raw, and it was in Chinese... which I found strange. Usually raw means it's in Japanese. Oh well, this way when my parents ask what I'm doing, I can tell them I'm studying Chinese... o_0
Oh. Fzx final. Ha. It was interesting. I hope he grades easy, anyway. Bio wasn't too difficult... I have to admit I didn't try very hard, though. Sigh. But I did get an A- on my APcalc final, which puts me at an A- for the semester, I think... :)
Oh yeah, played v-ball afterschool with Merian today... it went up on the roof twice... and both times Jesse climbed up there to get it down for us. haha... good times. Okay let's not talk about volleyball anymore or I'm going to... get angry.
Science bowl tomorrow... Mike thinks I'm a nerd or something. Bleh. Oh well, I suppose there are worse things to be associated with.
Do you remember the marshmallow study they did where they give kids a marshmallow and tell them that if they wait, they can have another one? If you do, skip this italicized part. If you don't, read... it's interesting. Or you can read it here.
The Stanford Marshmallow Study
Stanford University psychology researcher Michael Mischel demonstrated how important self-discipline (the ability to delay immediate gratifiction in exchange for long term goal achievement) is to lifelong success. In a longitudinal study which began in the 1960s, he offered hungry 4-year-olds a marshmallow, but told them that if they could wait for the experimenter to return after running an errand, they could have two marshmallows.
Delayed Gratification (Self-Discipline) the Key to Long Term Success
Those who could wait the fifteen or twenty minutes for the experimenter to return would be demonstrating the ability to delay gratification and control impulse. About one-third of of the children grabbed the single marshmallow right away while some waited a little longer, and about one-third were able to wait 15 or 20 minutes for the researcher to return.
Years later when the children graduated from high school, the differences between the two groups were dramatic: the resisters were more positive, self-motivating, persistent in the face of difficulties, and able to delay gratification in pursuit of their goals. They had the habits of successful people which resulted in more successful marriages, higher incomes, greater career satisfaction, better health, and more fulfilling lives than most of the population.
Those having grabbed the marshmallow were more troubled, stubborn and indecisive, mistrustful, less self-confident, and still could not put off gratification. They had trouble subordinating immediate impulses to achieve long-range goals. When it was time to study for the big test, they tended to get distracted into doing activities that brought instant gratifciation This impulse followed them throughout their lives and resulted in unsucessful marriages, low job satisfaction and income, bad health, and frustrating lives.____________________
So I was thinking about this study and how it's sort of similar to dating relationships. I mean, you can have one marshmallow now - turn dating into something cheap and casual, throw the phrase "I love you" around, give your heart away easily, give your body away... or you can save all that and have two marshmallows later - God's plan for you, real commitment, a genuine love relationship, freedom from guilt, and a more stable marriage. Are you sure you want to take that one marshmallow now?
Got another 5 demerits for not tucking in my shirt + wearing a long-sleeve under a short sleeve. Ah well. Gotta love CCS and uptight administrators. Oops, did I say that? ;)
Wiggins? Wiggins! bananna 6:41 PM |